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Positive Behaviour

We believe that children and adults flourish best in an ordered environment in which everyone knows what is expected of them and children are free to develop their play and learning without fear of being hurt, bullied or hindered by anyone else. We aim to work towards a situation in which children can develop self-discipline and self-esteem in an atmosphere of mutual respect and encouragement.

In order to achieve this:

  • Rules governing the conduct of the setting and the behaviour of the children will be discussed and agreed within the setting and explained to all newcomers, both children and adults.
  • All staff, students and volunteers working on the premises will ensure that the boundaries are applied consistently, so that children have the security of knowing what to expect and can build up useful habits behaviour.
  • All adults will provide a positive role model for the children with regard to friendliness, care and courtesy.
  • Adults in the setting will praise and endorse desirable behaviour such as kindness and willingness to share.
  • We will take positive steps to avoid a situation in which children receive adult attention only in return for undesirable behaviour.

When children behave in unacceptable ways:

  • Physical punishment, such as smacking or shaking, will be neither used nor threatened.
  • Children will never be sent out of a room by themselves.
  • Techniques intended to single out and humiliate individual children such as the “naughty chair” will not be used.
  • Children who behave unacceptably will be given one-to-one adult support in seeing what was wrong and working towards a better pattern.
  • Where appropriate this might be achieved by a period of “time out” with an adult.
  • In cases of serious unacceptable behaviour, such as racial or other abuse, the unacceptability of the behaviour and attitudes will be made clear immediately, but by means of explanation rather than personal blame.
  • In any case of unacceptable behaviour, it will always be made clear to the child or children in question that it is the behaviour and not the child that is unwelcome.
  • Adults will not shout or raise their voices in a threatening way.
  • Adults in the setting will make themselves aware of, and respect, a range of cultural expectations regarding interactions between people.
  • ·Any behaviour problems will be handled in a developmentally appropriate fashion, respecting individual children’s level of understanding and maturity.
  • Recurring problems will be tackled by the whole setting, in partnership with the child’s Parents/Guardians, to establish an understanding of the cause.
  • Adults will be aware that some kinds of behaviour may arise from a child’s special needs.

 

Under Three’s

When children under three behave in inconsiderate ways we recognise that strategies for supporting them will need to be developmentally appropriate and differ from those for older children.

  • We recognise that babies and very young children are unable to regulate their own emotions, such as fear, anger or distress, and require sensitive adults to help them do this.
  • Common inconsiderate or hurtful behaviours of young children include tantrums, biting or fighting. Staff are calm and patient, offering comfort to intense emotions, helping children to manage their feelings and talk about them to help resolve issues and promote understanding.
  • If tantrums, biting or fighting are frequent, we try to find out the underlying cause – such as achange or upheaval at home, or frequent change of Guardians. Sometimes a child has not settled in well and the behaviour may be the result of ‘separation anxiety’.
  •  We focus on ensuring a child’s attachment figure in the setting, their key person, is building a strong relationship to provide security to the child.

 

Rough and tumble play and fantasy aggression

Young children often engage in play that has aggressive themes – such as superhero and weapon play; some children appear pre-occupied with these themes, but their behaviouris not necessarily a precursor to hurtful behaviour or bullying, although it may be inconsiderate at times and may need addressing using strategies as above.

 

Hurtful behaviour

We take hurtful behaviour very seriously. Most children under the age of five will at some stage hurt or say something hurtful to another child, especially if their emotions are high at the time,but it is not helpful to label this behaviour as ‘bullying’. For children under five, hurtful behavior is momentary, spontaneous and often without cognisance of the feelings of the person whom they have hurt.and although inconsiderate may need to address the situation using the strategies as above.

The setting will empower children who are on the receiving end of unacceptable behaviour to speak out, both to the child and to an adult. Children will be supported in this to ensure no retaliation is taking place, yet the child is aware they have the right to make their feelings known.